i really am so frustrated right now. well not that much anymore. i just got off the phone, vented my frustration to my friend. we ended up talking for about an hour and a half. initially about my feelings. and then about our lives.
my problem is, whenever i get frustrated about something, i want to talk it over with someone. best if it was with a friend, but if they’re not available, i talk about it with someone else. a friend from work. our yaya. etc.
i never thought something so petty would get to me. maybe it’s the wedding jitters or whatever.
my antuken & i had a little tiff. what about? seating arrangement. he keeps on insisting that it’s useless to make one. he doesn’t know the turn-out of the guests was what he said. it’s futile to make one coz the guests will seat with people they know, was another thing he pointed out.
i called him (i was at work, he was at home) to explain why we needed to make one. first, it might get chaotic. told him, the 2nd thing he stated wouldn’t happen because what we’ll do is ask the name of the guests and tell them their table number.
he keeps on insisting that he can’t make the arrangements coz there will be unfilled tables. we can’t seat some people with people they don’t know. was what he said. i told him, eventually we might have that. that’s why we’re making seating arrangements. to ensure that we seat people with people they know. still, he was steadfast in saying it’s useless.
i told him, if i knew all his guests, i’d do the seating arrangement. but i don’t. i told him, if you want, you could have your guests free-for-all/first-come-first-served tables, but i’m arranging the seats of my guests, in a very sarcastic tone, mind you. and what did he say???? okei, that would be good. grrrrrrr.
haay. i can’t believe we’re in this situation. i ended up hanging up the phone on him cause he told me to go back to work.
this is just one simple thing i’m asking from him. he never came with me when i went and talked to our suppliers — invitations, photo & video, caterer, buying wedding favors. he never went with me when i gave out invitations for my friends (and they were looking for him). i told them that he had work. they came back with: couldn’t he file for a leave to accompany you? and i answered with: you know how it is with us factory workers, it’s a little difficult to file for a leave. and a guy friend answered with: i was on leave for a month when we were preparing for our own wedding.
and now, for just this one thing. he acts like i’ve given him a gargantuan task. grrr.
it’s a good thing to have your friends around so that during times like these, you get to talk it over and somehow lessen your frustration. thanks rhods. i’m glad i said some sensible things to you the last time we went out and i’m sooper happy that it somehow enlightened you about some things. things i’m totally not an expert on. and i’m so touched when you said that it’s really different when you get a friend’s perspective on some things (meaning my perspective). miss you.